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God help me, fediverse, we have got to stop being so pedantic.
In university, I got a degree in English. I expected lots of reading, lots of writing, and lots... https://anniemueller.com/posts/talk-about-the-thing-itself
@bammerlaan@mastodon.nl@annie I was venting to my partner about this the other day, my frustrations about people sticking around on platforms hosted by what I perceive as basically fascists, and how they're part of the problem. And she said broadly the same thing. If you want people to do something else, you don't motivate them by telling them how awful what they are doing is. You motivate them by telling them what you enjoy about the alternatives.
Knowing that and actually doing that are still different things, though, and I still stuggle with it.
I was talking to friends yesterday, and I noticed an almost visible change in atmosphere the moment I went from bashing Facebook, Instagram, X and their owners to telling them about the nice sewing and DIY communities I found here. So I'm slowly learning...
I'll share your blog post with my partner, I think she'll enjoy it.
@bammerlaan Yes... I think what that approach does is pile on shame, makes people feel inferior. Then even if they reach a point where they're curious/ready, they have this additional resistance of feeling that way to overcome.
Shame is such a powerful social tool and sometimes imo it's an appropriate tool to use but typically not, I think, in this case.